How to Grow your Children?
At one or the other point of life you might have wondered on how mysteriously and swiftly the time passes and things change in your life! Your cheeks that were so smooth during your childhood lose their smoothness and develop wrinkles, and the your voice tone changes from smooth to coarse in men and to shrill in women. You will find that you have lost your innocence somewhere in the wilderness of life and have piled up a huge garbage of guilt and sins. Here in this blog you will discover some of the aspects related to how to let your child grow.
Human beings, like all other animals have phases of life such as infancy, teenage, adulthood, and old age. You grow unaware of the changes that are gradually happening in your life as well as in others’, and will ponder at those who opine that you have a grownup lot. You pursue your education, take up jobs, and reach a stage when you marry someone you love and have children. Then it comes a time when you experience what your parents have undergone while bringing you up. You will begin to feel that your children are the biggest challenges to deal with! You will wonder at their energy levels and become frustrated when their wish list seems endless.
You try to put restrictions on our children and your children look at you as if they are looking at some monster! It is true that with time human memory decreases and you tend to forget most of the things that you have learnt over time; you will also forget how you behaved when you were a child. The problem arises here when parents fail to understand their children. To add to this problem our education system differentiates children based on the scores obtained in some exams, while each child will have its own personality, skill sets, and strengths and weaknesses.
Children are very sensitive to their surroundings and learn from each incidence that happens around them. It also is a fact that father and mother are the first teachers for their children. Science has found that it is so even in animals; newborns follow their parents, watch their every move and do exactly as their parents behave, and you can check this out yourself. Just bring a newly hatched chick, separate it from its mother, and stay with this chick for sometime and it will consider you like its parent and will follow you wherever you go.
This is the way young ones learn new things from its surroundings. If parents shout at each other, then their children perceive that it is an ideal way a husband and a wife should behave. If parents use bad words then children will learn that too. It is also very important to note that parents are not the only one from whom children learn things; the surroundings, friends, relatives, neighbors, and teachers also influence the children and their learning.
A teacher may find that his/her student is using bad words or abusing his classmates, and wonder how can it happen when no teacher could have taught all that. But it will also be a fact that the student has learnt it somehow from somewhere! Parents may find that they have never used bad words against their children but their children are using swear words.
It is time to know that the children learn from their surroundings and if you want to grow your children in a particular way you must create an environment which is conducive to such a growth. If children fight then you should tell and make them understand the rights and the wrongs. If you do not want your child to grow timid or abusive do not abuse your child or do not let others to do so. If you find that your child seems withdrawn, find out the reason and create a positive environment that acts as distraction from the troubles your child is facing.
Getting your child admitted to a yoga or a music class, swimming, sports or adventure club can do wonders and act as great stress buster to your child. Developing good reading habits and orientation towards God and spirituality can also instill good values in your child. It will also help your child grow healthy and strong, and develop skills that can help the child explore and strengthen the creativity.
Raising your child is not much different from growing a plant; a plant will grow using whatever it gets from the soil. If a plant gets good things it will bear good fruits, if they receive bad things you will get spoilt ones. What you sow, so shall you reap!
Vinod Kumar
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